I am sorry it has taken me so long to post...as always I blame school. I pay thousands upon thousands of dollars for graduate school, so unfortunately even though this blog is much more awesome than homework, school comes first.
I've also been busy because one of my nearest-dearest friends has asked me to be the maid-of-honor in her wedding. She got engaged in June and plans to quickly plan the wedding for April.
Okay, before I start I wanted to get one thing straight. I love, love, love and I am completely honored to be a bridesmaid. It makes me incredibly happy that out of anyone in the world this wonderful friend of mine has chosen me to be the maid-of-honor. I love being a part of weddings because they are so beautiful, romantic and what I believe high-school dances were preparing us for in our adult lives. As the maid-of-honor, I get to go wedding dress shopping with her, see the reception hall ahead of time, be the one who saves the day with extra hair pins and safety pins or whatever is needed, throw her parties that lead up to the wedding like a shower or bachelorette party and I am so excited about all of it!
But Rachel, as you may know there are certain things in this world destined to make one feel bad about our body (bathing suits, dance costumes and ballet attire, the jeans we wiggle into..) and bridesmaids dresses are one of them. It is just hard wearing a dress that someone else picks out for you. Plus, bridesmaids dresses are designed with the intent of not upstaging the bride. Basically bridesmaids dresses are already played down without one adding their personal feelings about their body to them.
Luckily, my friend is the sweetest bride in the whole world and even though she does not want to order different cuts, she really really wants to find a dress that will look good and flatter all of us. This is different from the bride in a wedding my friend was part of the bridal party for, who just said "Here this is the dress order it." It was strapless and tiny. I remember thinking when she showed it to me that I couldn't imagine wearing that.
The bride I am the maid-of-honor for does not want anyone to be horrified by the dress, but her bridal party is made up of two petite girls, one very tall box shaped girl, me-busty Macgee and a girl closer to my body type with a little less bust, little more tummy. Basically, there is every body type under the sun.
Here's the other thing that I have to stop myself from huddling in a corner crying about (gigantic exaggeration), the store only carries up to size 12 (European sizes the equivalent to a size 6/8 American) in sample dresses, meaning me and the bigger bridesmaids have to order the dress without ever trying it on. In the meantime, the petite girls get to show the bride what they look like in each dress, completely ruling out the ones they don't look good in.
After much frustration with trying to please everyone, the bride did some internet research and asked the sales woman in the store...what dresses are most flattering on all body types? The answer: Empress cut, A-Line, two-strap dresses. Similar to this....
...but short and blue with a smaller top.
Kinda like this:
.......with a less defined waist.
I agree...that dress will look good on every body type...except mine. Story of my life. The dress fits perfect everywhere...except the bust. Nothing has been decided yet and if I told the bride I was that opposed to the dress I know she wouldn't make me wear it, but who wants to be that person in the wedding party especially after she chose me to be the maid-of-honor! In fact, I am really hoping she doesn't ever find this post. I will just deal, try to lose all the weight I can before April and when that doesn't work, I will buy a cute little shawl or something to cover up what the dress won't. After all, I am used to that kind of thing by now.
Besides, it's not my day anyway. I am there for my nearest-dearest friend on the day she marries the perfect guy she thought would never come along, to wish her luck, make sure she is gorgeous and smiling. She will be there to do the same when it is my turn...so I can wear this dress for her.
Your friend,
Angela
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